“As Long As We Live, It’s You and Me Baby. There Ain’t Nothing Wrong With That.”
One year ago today, my life changed. One year ago today, I finally got the position I always dreamed of. One year ago today, my name changed. One year ago today, I became someone’s wife.
I always thought Jessie’s Girl had a nice ring to it, until I became Bill’s wife.
Everyone says the first year of marriage is the hardest. The first year was hard, but marriage had nothing to do with it.
I lost 30 pounds in one month. Six months later, I had gained 40 pounds within two months.
There were days my heart would beat right out of my chest. Then there were days I wondered if my heart was beating at all.
Sometimes I couldn’t get out bed. Some weeks I couldn’t sleep.
After I revealed this crazy roller coaster ride to doctors, they finally figured out I had a thyroid condition. I was FINALLY going to be healthy!
Then life shot another bullet…literally.
We stopped at Home Depot to grab a tool and ended up hiding behind cash registers, while a gunman shot up the place.
But just when I thought Hurricane Life was going to calm down, the winds picked up and disaster tried to annihilate my world. An officer came beating down my door at 5 a.m., delivering some of the worst news of my life, prompted by people I once loved and considered role models.
Actually, it goes deeper than that.
These were people I thought would always have my back. I made many sacrifices for them. In fact, these were people for whom I would’ve done ANYTHING.
As the Year Went On...
Friends died. Dogs got sick. Humans I used to call friends disappeared from my life without any warning. Life was M-E-S-S-Y this year.
But you know what wasn’t messy? My husband.
Meet My Husband, Bill
My husband showed up each and every day, even when he was working thousands of miles away.
His actions spoke louder than his words. He made our house into a home. When there were days I didn’t know if I go could go on, Bill helped me rise above.
My husband was tough when I couldn’t be. This man was my voice when the words just couldn’t come out anymore.
Bill was my protector. He was my comic relief. He was the coach in life I never had before.
What I learned
A commitment to chaos you can’t control.
Raising each other up, even if one of you is struggling.
Being honest, even when the truth hurts.
Shielding each other from the devils that show up.
Being a team in the face of any storm that comes at you.
...and marriage isn’t supposed to be easy. It can be magical and romantic, but not at all times.
Here's the thing though - marriage is absolutely worth it. It's the kind of commitment I never knew could exist. Marriage is so much more than just love.
It took me 44 years to find the order to my chaos, the OCD to my ADD, the rock to my roll, the love of my life.
It was more than worth the wait.
I'll borrow from the Jeffersons and say to my husband Bill, “As long as we live, it’s you and me baby, there ain’t nothing wrong with that.”
Like George and Louise, we're movin' on up!